The heart of her husband safely trusts her, so he will have no lack of gain.
~ Proverb 31:11

I read this chapter the other day and had to stop when I came to this verse. I asked myself..“what are the ways I want his heart to safely trust in me?”

As his wife, I’ve learned that I have been given a portion of power that can be used to either build up his confidence in our relationship or to tear it down.

The wise woman builds her house,
    but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
~Proverb 14:1

I want to be the wise woman – the woman who builds and tends to her husband’s confidence. A woman who walks in the power of the Spirit. A woman whose decisions are guided by the truth in His Word.

I don’t want to be the foolish woman – the woman who tears down her husband with the stress of doubt and apprehension. A woman who adds to his weight with drips of nagging and selfishness. A woman whose decisions are driven by her emotions.

I want him to rest in his surety. To be settled in his assurance. To trust in his reliance.

So, after some consideration here is what I came up with:

5 Ways I Want His Heart to Safely Trust In Me

5 Ways I Want His Heart to Safely Trust In Me

Does he trust in my faithfulness?

I want him to be fully confident of my faithfulness to him. When I say faithfulness, I mean much more than what may initially come to mind. Adultery is absolutely included with this, but I also want him to trust that my heart and emotions belong to him. That I’m doing my part to protect and guard my heart and mind against temptation.

I also want him to be confident that I’m nurturing my relationship with the Lord. My faithfulness to him starts with my faithfulness to God.

Does he trust in my conduct?

I want him to trust that I’m conducting myself with godliness, propriety, and modesty. That I speak highly of him to others and not bad-mouth him behind his back. That I show him respect at all times – when he is present and when he is not.

Does he trust in my time management?

I want him to trust that I am not spending my time in laziness or idleness, but that I’m wisely and prudently ordering my day. That I’m busy in my home in helping him serve, love, train, and teach our children.That I’m getting done what needs to be done.

Does he trust in my financial management?

I want him to trust that I’m wisely helping him to be a faithful steward of our finances. That I’m paying bills on time. That I will not frivolously and carelessly waste his hard work.

Does he trust in my commitment to our family?

I want him to know that I place my ministry to him and to our children before any others. That I won’t agree to serve in other areas that will cause me to neglect my commitment to them.

Lord, I know that nothing good or trustworthy dwells within me apart from You. Holy Spirit, would you please help me to be the kind of wife that builds her husband up and does not tear him down? Would you help me to place his needs in the right priority? Help me to serve and love my family in the way You desire.